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Still Life of a cold - a mug of tea, classes, and tissues

It’s Just a Cold. . .

This week, I caught a “cold.” It presented as a sinus infection, likely viral, and fairly annoying if not completely debilitating. I think the added distress of this infection was that I haven’t had a “cold” in the last several years. I think I believed I was “immune” – but of course, I’m not.

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yellow road trip van traverses an open road in a rocky desert

OMG, Road Trip(s)!

For those of you who lead “normal” lives – lives that aren’t built around the needs of other people with serious limitations – the idea of taking a road trip probably sounds entirely ordinary. But for a full-time caregiver (like me), the logistics associated with the notion of getting into a car, spending several hours in that confined space, transporting our life (with all the necessary belongings) to a hotel, spending the night, and enjoying a different expanse of scenery is entirely foreign!

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Where does the time go?

It’s Labor Day weekend which reminds me that we’ve reached the end of meteorological summer. And, of course, I ask myself, “Where did the summer go?” That’s because I can’t remember what I did with the time, how I used it, squandered it, enjoyed it, wasted it or invested it – it just vanished.

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What’s Standing in Your Way?

If you’ve been reading my Monday mailings regularly, you know that I tend to write to you about what I’m discovering in my own life because, after all, I’m on this journey with you. I’m quick to admit that my own life is a “work in progress” and happy to share the discoveries I’m making about my own challenges and foibles with you.

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ying yang symbol of white and gold

Boiling Down the Tao

Over the last several weeks (5 to be exact) I’ve had a chance to take a course on the Tao Te Ching, a classic Chinese spiritual text authored some 2400 years ago, traditionally credited to the sage Lao-tzu (the founder of Taoism) who may have been a cluster of authors, not necessarily a single person.

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Let it go. . .

I’m studying the Yamas and Nyamas of yoga this summer, and a particular Yama showed up in my life this week that I want to share with you. . .

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a boy stands screaming while wearing a shirt that reads "positive vibes"

The Art of Making Yourself Miserable. . .

I had the occasion to observe a family of four briefly this weekend and their eldest child, a boy of about 9-years of age, offered such an elegant example of The Art of Making Yourself Miserable that I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

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Like a thief in the night. . .

You’ll remember from an earlier Monday mailing that I’m studying the Yamas & Nyamas (and the Eight Limbs of Yoga) this summer and sharing some of that with you. Well, here’s my third installment from those studies.

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A man holds up a polaroid photo of himself looking discontent or not happy

Finding Contentment. . .

Wikipedia tells us that Contentment is an emotional state of satisfaction that can be seen as a mental state drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind. 

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What’s your motivation?

Today I listened to a podcast hosted by Mayim Bialik and available on YouTube that was recommended by a friend who knows I’ve been reading Michael Singer’s work. In the midst of the conversation, Michael Singer asked, “What’s your motivation?”

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Yamas & Niyamas. . .

Because it is the 4th of July, a day all about remembering our freedoms, engaging in self-indulgence, and frightening our pets with fireworks, I thought I’d go in an entirely different direction both today and over the course of this summer. I want to share with you what I’m learning about the Yamas and the Niyamas of yoga.

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Masculine presenting person with brown skin puts a hand to his head, with tired eyes on the camera

Sometimes, it is just exhausting. . .

If I hear anything consistently from my clients, it is that they are exhausted. It isn’t always from the physical labor of caring for the people in their lives, sometimes it is just from the emotional work of always being “on” – a hypervigilant state.

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Intention, Awareness, Insight and Courage. . .

I’ve been reading a lot lately on the construct of the samskara – the word samskara comes from the Sanskrit sam (complete or joined together) and kara (action, cause, or doing). In a simple word, this term neatly explains why we get stuck in a rut, paralyzed by our old patterns, and feel unable to move forward, despite our best intentions.

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Happy Birthday written in icing and chocolate treats

Thank you for being a friend. . .

This week a dear friend will turn 70 and while I have a card ready for her, I haven’t sent it yet. We’ve been friends since grade school and were attendants in each other’s youthful first weddings.

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War memorial plaque with red flowers laid across in honor of Memorial Day

Honoring those who made the ultimate sacrifice. . .

It is Memorial Day, a holiday that gifts us with a 3-day weekend and commemorates the unofficial start of summer in most of our minds. All too often, we neglect the original intent of the holiday – to honor the nation’s war-dead, those who made the ultimate sacrifice so that the rest of us could enjoy the privilege of living in a free nation.

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Grasping Grief. . .

I’m very late to the party here – at understanding grief in all its many outfits. It comes masquerading as a dozen different characters and fooling me into thinking that it has come to play or taunt me.

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Yellow forsythia blooming on brown branches with blue sky in the background

Spring has (finally) sprung!

It has been a dreadfully long winter – cold, wet, icy, windy and, until now, it did not seem like all of that would ever melt or recede and allow us to enjoy some beauty that would usually accompany the month of May.

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About Paula

I help other caregivers – both professionals and family caregivers – acknowledge their pain and learn to practice the many small skills of self-care that can sustain them through the challenges of wholeheartedly caring for others.

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Simple Self-Care Strategies

It’s Just a Cold. . .

This week, I caught a “cold.” It presented as a sinus infection, likely viral, and fairly annoying if not completely debilitating. I think the added distress of this infection was that I haven’t had a “cold” in the last several years. I think I believed I was “immune” – but of course, I’m not.

Read More →
yellow road trip van traverses an open road in a rocky desert
Simple Self-Care Strategies

OMG, Road Trip(s)!

For those of you who lead “normal” lives – lives that aren’t built around the needs of other people with serious limitations – the idea of taking a road trip probably sounds entirely ordinary. But for a full-time caregiver (like me), the logistics associated with the notion of getting into a car, spending several hours in that confined space, transporting our life (with all the necessary belongings) to a hotel, spending the night, and enjoying a different expanse of scenery is entirely foreign!

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An orange alarm block held up against a blue background
Simple Self-Care Strategies

Where does the time go?

It’s Labor Day weekend which reminds me that we’ve reached the end of meteorological summer. And, of course, I ask myself, “Where did the summer go?” That’s because I can’t remember what I did with the time, how I used it, squandered it, enjoyed it, wasted it or invested it – it just vanished.

Read More →
corner of a kitchen filled with dishes and clutter
Simple Self-Care Strategies

What’s Standing in Your Way?

If you’ve been reading my Monday mailings regularly, you know that I tend to write to you about what I’m discovering in my own life because, after all, I’m on this journey with you. I’m quick to admit that my own life is a “work in progress” and happy to share the discoveries I’m making about my own challenges and foibles with you.

Read More →
How Can I Help You?

Through Co-Create 4 Life, you will learn a range of well-being strategies from skillfully implementing self-care to holistic approaches to well-being, rebuilding resilience, and battling burnout. Book a free consultation call today to discuss your options.

How Can I Help You?

Through Co-Create 4 Life, you will learn a range of well-being strategies from skillfully implementing self-care to holistic approaches to well-being, rebuilding resilience, and battling burnout. Book a free consultation call today to discuss your options.