Sometimes, life gets a little disorganized. You can’t find your keys, you forget it’s trash-day, you have to look up the address of a friend you visit on a regular basis – go figure!?!
If you have kids, life is frequently disorganized (who has kids that put things where they belong?) and, trust me, if a family member has dementia, it is a very similar path – coffee cups in the refrigerator, sunglasses left on the couch, pajamas discarded on the bathroom floor. So, you’re always picking up and putting away – re-creating order, as I call this activity in my house.
- It’s time to update my WILL (yep, written at least 10 years ago, things have changed, my priorities have shifted and it’s time to revise that essential document!)
- I need to update my EOL notebook (in my house, that’s the RED notebook) that spells out for my executor all the details of my personal and financial situation, so his work will be easier to manage.
- I’m financing home repairs (this building is, after all, 20 years old now) so over the last few years and certainly this summer, I’m investing in structural elements that simply need to be replaced!
It can be daunting to look at these kinds of matters head-on. Most of us have some aversion to getting a part of this life-management organized. For some it is the financial conversations that need to be had. For others it may be a reluctance to talk about the inevitability of death. And for many, it is just the unpleasantness of coming to terms with the harsh realities of life, when we’d rather act like we’re on vacation. But we’re not.
What do you find yourself avoiding that continues to call for your attention? What weighs on your consciousness reminding you that there’s work to be done? Sooner or later each of us finds ourselves needing to put life in order and get on with even the most challenging chores of adulting.
I’m reminded of the saying: What we resist persists. Sometimes it’s good to have a helper that can gently encourage you to accomplish the difficult things in life. Let me know if I can help! That’s what a coach is for, to go with you through the hard places, so you can live the life you love!