Gratitude, Grit & Grace

It’s been a while since I wrote about the 3-Gs that consistently get me through life, Gratitude, Grit & Grace. They’re always present in my life and I hope they are also part of your daily experience.

The Oxford Languages Dictionary offers these definitions. . .

  • Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.
  • Grit: courage and resolve; strength of character.
  • Grace: courteous goodwill.

I believe that every caregiver needs these three; maybe every person, regardless of whether they find themselves in a caregiving role.  I think this is true because life offers us situations where it is far to easy to be cynical or unhappy.  These often prove to generate the exact opposite of gratitude and when we choose to stay in those emotional states, they can easily become traits in our lives. We become cynical or unhappy people, instead of grateful people.

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Gratitude is what gives me strength. And, having a gratitude practice is that persistent reminder that life has treated me well, people have been generous toward me and overall, I have much to be thankful for. We can always find something to complain about, but gratitude puts life in perspective.

Grit is choosing to be the person you WANT to be, even when your lesser angels would happily coax you to be someone of far less character.  For me, grit is the capacity to answer gently when my husband asks for the 25th time each evening, “Where are we going to sleep tonight?” even though I want to scream at him that we’ve lived here over 20 years, and we always sleep in the exact same room! Grit is the resolve to take a breath and be the person I aspire to be, not the one yelling inside my head.

Grace shows up when I’m able to be generous – both toward myself and toward others.  Because I live with a spouse, I am given the opportunity to demonstrate grace, or to be gracious, repeatedly – every time my loved one offends me or irritates me or disappoints me – that is the reality of living with a loved-one! 

And, I have the chance to also be gracious toward myself, especially when my better angels don’t win the contest and my anger, irritation or upset spills out into our conversation. This is not an uncommon occurrence in my house. Grace is a guiding force that reminds me that my own failings are not fatal, and neither should I allow anyone else’s’ shortcomings to be seen as grievous.

What about you?  Does your life afford you the opportunity to demonstrate Gratitude, Grit and Grace on a regular basis? 

  • Are you confronted with situations and people who easily irritate you or create upset or unhappiness in your life?
  • Are you quick to give-in to those lesser angels who invite your to retaliate, to raise your voice or to fuel an argument?
  • And then, are you prepared to forgive (yourself & others) when behavior is less than perfect, and possibly even a little coarse?

Life reminds me on a daily basis that I don’t live up to my own expectations, that I easily reach and breach my limits and allow my upset to spill out into conversation or become more painful than I ever intended.  This is where going to a practice can humble me and remind me that I am in need of all three of these gifts, Gratitude, Grit and Grace.  And, indeed, they are gifts.

Whatever life is sending you, however you encounter it, respond to it, react to it or find yourself influenced by it, I wish you these three gifts, Gratitude, Grit and Grace.  May they remind you of your humanity, strengthen your resolve to be your best-self, and afford you the self-forgiveness and compassion that we all need to get through the day. And, as always, let me know if I can help!

Self-care is every conscious action you take that feeds your soul, nourishes your body, nurtures your spirit, or replenishes your relationship with yourself!

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About Paula

I help other caregivers – both professionals and family caregivers – acknowledge their pain and learn to practice the many small skills of self-care that can sustain them through the challenges of wholeheartedly caring for others.

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