Knowledge is power. Except when it’s not.


So when is knowledge NOT power?  When it triggers an unhealthy, automatic response in us that disables the power that COULD be available and makes us conflicted instead.

What kind of trigger could be so unhealthy and disabling?  For me that would be the automatic response of SHOULD, OUGHT and MUST.  Anytime I learn something (gain knowledge) and it triggers one of those responses for me, I know I’ve given away my power and accepted something much less.  Sometimes, I let that loss of power invite conflict – and not creative conflict, either!

What does this look like? Well, consider these bits of knowledge and the SHOULD, OUGHT, or MUST they might generate. . .

I step on the scale and learn I’ve gained weight – “I MUST mind what I’m eating and get this %$#@^% weight off, and soon!”  Instead, I might say, “Okay, now I know what I can do to create the change I want!”

I open my bank account and learn that an autopay I’d arranged has put me into overdraft – “I SHOULD have seen this coming! How stupid of me to let that happen!” Instead, I might say, “Great job with the autopay arrangement, but I need to flag my calendar for timing in the future!”

I realize that I’ve missed an appointment, just because I didn’t check my calendar in a timely way – “I OUGHT to be more careful! Now I’ll have to wait weeks to find another appointment!” Instead, I might say, “Everyone makes mistakes, and even now, everything is unfolding in its right timing – I’ll apologize and reschedule!”

We make choices each time we learn or discover something new (which is a bit of knowledge).  We can turn that knowledge into power or into defeat, just by managing our self-talk.

What have you learned today, what knowledge have you gained that COULD produce power in your life? How will you speak to yourself about that knowledge so that you can be the powerful person you were meant to be, in every aspect of your life?



This week an enormously generous gift was given to me, a young man, whom I met at a conference, and who is not even entirely done with high school yet, began to build the website for Co-Create 4 Life!  Clearly, the skills he possesses are generational – a Boomer like me could study for hours and not be capable of what he can do in minutes – but they are also very personal skills, given the way he chooses to use them.  He told me he’s been building websites (mostly for others) since he was twelve.  His preference is to work with clients who are not so much out to “sell” something but committed to helping other people.  That is why, he said, “You’re exactly the kind of client I want to help!”

I was very moved by his dedication to his craft.  The work is not done yet, so don’t go hunting for just yet but, you can look for it soon, and I’ll be sure to announce its launch here!  Watching him work made me think, who am I intent on serving?  Two kinds of clients come to mind.  The first are people who are family caregivers, conscripted into the work of seeing others through a time of illness, long or short. The second sort of client is the healthcare professional who, amid the chaos that is the modern healthcare system, may feel abandoned, uninspired and ready to burn-out. I am hoping that Co-Create 4 Life will have an impact on people in both of these situations.

What about you? Who are you called to help?  Are you making an effort to reach them and offer what you do best to lighten their load?  Each of us has a gift to share. What are you doing with yours?