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Unpacking My White Privilege. . .

Over the last several weeks, I’ve been engaged in an online course of sorts about the nature of White privilege. It is called a White Affinity Circle and it is a “virtual circle” conversation among a group (I think there’s about 8 of us) White women with a professor leading the discussion.

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Navigating the Narrow Place

Recently, I had a rich conversation with a friend and colleague in which we discussed the structure of the religious calendar – in particular, the Jewish year. Rosh Hashanah the holiday that proclaims the new year, which ran from sundown on September 25th through nightfall September 27this an extremely important holiday for Jewish people, a time to both reflect and rejoice.

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The Essential Elements of Wellbeing. . .

I came upon an interesting book last week, Wellbeing at Work, by the Gallup Research authors, Jim Clifton & Jim Harter. They summarize a ton of data that Gallup has amassed over their years of national and international polls, and what they offer is well worth attending to.

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Believing in Brahmacharya. . .

Circling back to the Yamas & Nyamas of Yoga, I recall I skipped over Brahmacharya (when I wrote about Aparigraha in mid-August) – which is a practice often dismissed in Western culture because we think it is synonymous with “celibacy” and therefore ignore it because it seems irrelevant to us.

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It’s Just a Cold. . .

This week, I caught a “cold.” It presented as a sinus infection, likely viral, and fairly annoying if not completely debilitating. I think the added distress of this infection was that I haven’t had a “cold” in the last several years. I think I believed I was “immune” – but of course, I’m not.

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OMG, Road Trip(s)!

For those of you who lead “normal” lives – lives that aren’t built around the needs of other people with serious limitations – the idea of taking a road trip probably sounds entirely ordinary. But for a full-time caregiver (like me), the logistics associated with the notion of getting into a car, spending several hours in that confined space, transporting our life (with all the necessary belongings) to a hotel, spending the night, and enjoying a different expanse of scenery is entirely foreign!

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Where does the time go?

It’s Labor Day weekend which reminds me that we’ve reached the end of meteorological summer. And, of course, I ask myself, “Where did the summer go?” That’s because I can’t remember what I did with the time, how I used it, squandered it, enjoyed it, wasted it or invested it – it just vanished.

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What’s Standing in Your Way?

If you’ve been reading my Monday mailings regularly, you know that I tend to write to you about what I’m discovering in my own life because, after all, I’m on this journey with you. I’m quick to admit that my own life is a “work in progress” and happy to share the discoveries I’m making about my own challenges and foibles with you.

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Boiling Down the Tao

Over the last several weeks (5 to be exact) I’ve had a chance to take a course on the Tao Te Ching, a classic Chinese spiritual text authored some 2400 years ago, traditionally credited to the sage Lao-tzu (the founder of Taoism) who may have been a cluster of authors, not necessarily a single person.

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Let it go. . .

I’m studying the Yamas and Nyamas of yoga this summer, and a particular Yama showed up in my life this week that I want to share with you. . .

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The Art of Making Yourself Miserable. . .

I had the occasion to observe a family of four briefly this weekend and their eldest child, a boy of about 9-years of age, offered such an elegant example of The Art of Making Yourself Miserable that I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

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Like a thief in the night. . .

You’ll remember from an earlier Monday mailing that I’m studying the Yamas & Nyamas (and the Eight Limbs of Yoga) this summer and sharing some of that with you. Well, here’s my third installment from those studies.

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Finding Contentment. . .

Wikipedia tells us that Contentment is an emotional state of satisfaction that can be seen as a mental state drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind. 

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What’s your motivation?

Today I listened to a podcast hosted by Mayim Bialik and available on YouTube that was recommended by a friend who knows I’ve been reading Michael Singer’s work. In the midst of the conversation, Michael Singer asked, “What’s your motivation?”

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Yamas & Niyamas. . .

Because it is the 4th of July, a day all about remembering our freedoms, engaging in self-indulgence, and frightening our pets with fireworks, I thought I’d go in an entirely different direction both today and over the course of this summer. I want to share with you what I’m learning about the Yamas and the Niyamas of yoga.

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Sometimes, it is just exhausting. . .

If I hear anything consistently from my clients, it is that they are exhausted. It isn’t always from the physical labor of caring for the people in their lives, sometimes it is just from the emotional work of always being “on” – a hypervigilant state.

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Intention, Awareness, Insight and Courage. . .

I’ve been reading a lot lately on the construct of the samskara – the word samskara comes from the Sanskrit sam (complete or joined together) and kara (action, cause, or doing). In a simple word, this term neatly explains why we get stuck in a rut, paralyzed by our old patterns, and feel unable to move forward, despite our best intentions.

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I help other caregivers – both professionals and family caregivers – acknowledge their pain and learn to practice the many small skills of self-care that can sustain them through the challenges of wholeheartedly caring for others.

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Over the last several weeks, I’ve been engaged in an online course of sorts about the nature of White privilege. It is called a White Affinity Circle and it is a “virtual circle” conversation among a group (I think there’s about 8 of us) White women with a professor leading the discussion.

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Recently, I had a rich conversation with a friend and colleague in which we discussed the structure of the religious calendar – in particular, the Jewish year. Rosh Hashanah the holiday that proclaims the new year, which ran from sundown on September 25th through nightfall September 27this an extremely important holiday for Jewish people, a time to both reflect and rejoice.

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Three Ways to Know If You’re Connecting to Happiness. . .

If you read Mindful magazine, as I try to each month, you’ve likely come across the article offering these three insights into the pursuit of happiness.

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The Essential Elements of Wellbeing. . .

I came upon an interesting book last week, Wellbeing at Work, by the Gallup Research authors, Jim Clifton & Jim Harter. They summarize a ton of data that Gallup has amassed over their years of national and international polls, and what they offer is well worth attending to.

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How Can I Help You?

Through Co-Create 4 Life, you will learn a range of well-being strategies from skillfully implementing self-care to holistic approaches to well-being, rebuilding resilience, and battling burnout. Book a free consultation call today to discuss your options.

How Can I Help You?

Through Co-Create 4 Life, you will learn a range of well-being strategies from skillfully implementing self-care to holistic approaches to well-being, rebuilding resilience, and battling burnout. Book a free consultation call today to discuss your options.