ASK and you shall receive!

8/7/2019

For any of you who follow my blog every week, you’ll remember that last week I wrote about asking for what we need, with the assuring phrase that making such requests increases the probability of securing a positive response. Well, this week, allow me to offer you a reassuring update.

Last seek I asked specifically for three things I need. . .

A financially secure, spiritually balanced tenant for the apartment – don’t look now, but I have an apartment showing for someone who seems to fill that request precisely next Tuesday!
Someone to help with Jack when I have a minor surgery later this summer – a girlfriend responded to that request and is taking the afternoon off to assist us!
An exercise partner (here, in Eden Prairie) – okay, nothing to report here, but I have to admit, I haven’t been to the Eden Prairie Community Center in a while which might explain why I have not met this person yet!

So, what do you make of this? Seven days, 2 out of 3 requests fulfilled. I think it is amazing odds. And, I also think it is proof that we often short-change our success and happiness by simply hiding out and failing to admit we have needs; We forget to ASK.

This week, I’m asking all of you – do you have what you need? Do you have all the friends, money, relationships, tools, supports, access and feedback you need for your life and business to succeed?

If not, have you ASKED for what you need? Or are you still hoping that the folks around you will become clairvoyant and read your mind?

Or worse, are you reciting your list of deficits in your head so that your brain cannot imagine a life without difficulties? When your imagery is built on negative thoughts, “I can’t…” or “I’ll never…” your brain assumes you are correct and stops seeking out answers and resources to the challenges you’re encountering.

This week, I’m asking for even more. . .Here’s my fresh list – can you be part of my universe of solutions?

I need more companions to fill Jack’s days – like someone who would regularly take him to coffee at the Senior’s Center (there’s a Friday morning Men’s Coffee event there).
I need paid speaking engagements – maybe about my book, Self-care Strategies for Family Caregivers, — maybe on other topics, it doesn’t matter what the topic, I need paid events!
I need someone to help me organize the hall bedroom that has become an over-sized closet for clutter. It needs to become a functional space, and I believe I need help to get that done!

Well, I’m putting these out to all of you and to the Universe at large – we’ll see what happens between this Wednesday and next Wednesday! I’m trusting the process to help me enact the change I most desire!

About Paula

I help other caregivers – both professionals and family caregivers – acknowledge their pain and learn to practice the many small skills of self-care that can sustain them through the challenges of wholeheartedly caring for others.

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